Can i switch it off please

-forever and ever babe...-

Hanging out with a buddy this weekend made me aware of something that came as a slight irritant to me actually.

Have you ever noticed the boy-girl dynamics around you? It’s everywhere and in all ages – weather it’s the couple sitting in the car, the ones holding hands in the mall or the ones sitting cosy at the restaurant, its all around us. Got me thinking – can we not help it but do the coupling thing? I'm thinking now of someone like me who is board stiff of the whole institution of dating – do I need to have it shoved in my face the whole time?

Ok ok so if the natural desire was not there, then I suppose I could just not even notice it but you try explain to my heart that I don’t really wanna do this anymore… (well unless if my heart could match me up with a sensible somebody with a fair share of personal baggage).

So I ask you again – CAN I SWITCH IT OFF PLAESE?

If you know me, then you would know what my hang ups are when it comes to the whole thing of dating. Just feel like it is so saturated with games and misleading. I think that sometimes, instead of it being about the knock-me-off-my-feet-good-all-over-feeling, it has been turned into something that carries so much pressure with it that it is enough to drive any well balanced and sane female (like me) over the edge.

My issues?

Well, don’t get me wrong, I'm the first to fully admit that relationships are tough and that sometimes, it is not on the one date where you will find a fella who will click with you but what’s up with all the other rubbish?

Bear with me here

- What happened to being liked for just YOU? Nowadays its all about status. I feel like my male counterparts are looking for females with benefits. Ok so women do do it too but should it not be that way? - that we are looking for the man that will be able to take care of me and my needs? Hance the want to asses his capabilities? Nowadays, MEN are looking for woman who will support them too and that to me is just way to wrong! What is this? Which century do you come from? All through human existence, men have gone out of their way to protect their woman… he has sometimes killed for her and yet here we sit in a generation we call sophisticated and we have men wanting to hide behind the woman and wanting to know how SHE will support HIM?? Am I the only one seeing red???? And then you expect me to smile at such happenings?

- COMMITMENT! Does that word mean any thing to my male counterparts? Man it gets to me to think that we are all crazed about the dating thing yet we don’t know one of its core values. I say this because well look around you – infidelity has become a trend even something to brag about sometimes. Well both for my fellow females and males… why carry on to hurt each other at such levels yet in some really warped breath you also mention the words love… does it make sense? Dating/getting to know somebody could possibly lead to a relationship and when that happens, commitment should not even be questioned. When you take the effort to be with this person, you immediately COMMITE to having their interests very high up on your list of priorities. If you feel that you cannot do this then maybe you should not be so quick to be holding hands at the mall and having cosy lunches. Never has that lead to any good… so why do it???

- There is no rush so breathe! Ok ok so it finally happens that smooth Mr. Man comes long and wow he is all that. He does it right, he shows signs of knowing what commitment means and then and then… 3 moths down the line, he talks marriage!!!!! *speechless* what the hell is up with that? Could you please take the time to know me first before you decide that you wanna be with me forever? Are you waiting to get some inheritance pay out when you get married or something??? For all you know, I could be psycho! (those who know me will know the answer to this lol). You have taken so much effort to get me to even notice you, so why not enjoy and busk on that stage for a while (a while does not equal 3 months)!

Ok ok, so I could go on and on about this topic but let me hold it here for now!

Am I the only one who feels like this?

Ok so together with me… CAN I SWITCH IT OFF PLEASE!