the thick coat of love

"how strong is your love?"

yesterday, i posted a post on the strength of woman.

there is but a more intense kind of strength that i thought deserved a whole post of its own... The Thick Coat Of Love...

i met a woman once. a married woman. who as far as  my knowledge went did all that was due of a married woman. she took care of her household. she was sumissive to her husband and took the gratest care in supprting him and ensured that his joy was something she constently saw to - whatever it may be.

this impressed me imensly well mainly becaue i am a young woman in a time and generation where something like this is looked down upon and viewd as weak by many.but well you know me, i looked deeper into this with the aim of learning more - or maybe even envy of some sort since she seemed to get some joy from this an it made her life content - knowing that she has done well by her husband as taught by her mother, grandmother and other wise women of old... i looked further and the discovery i made took my breath away (this does seem to happen quite a lot - the breath taking i mean)

how do you suppose this husband reacted to his wives unwavering committ to him?
well, he got a mistres...

see, at times, men have this unbelievable ability to not appriciate a good woman. purly my opinion.
how many stories of cheating men have you heard. in some instences, a man goes out to seek for something he thinks is missing in his life well mainly because he selfishly believes he is entitled to it. he leaves a perfect wife at home who is willing to move mountains for him and goes and looks for a bit of a thrill. when he comes back home - to his 'boring' wife - she has a warm plate of food ready for him and never demands knowing where he has been - because she trusts him.then with time, while his affair carries on, he starts to mistreat her.  he shouts at her and shoves. and what does she do... she takes it in her stride.when they do go out together, she honours him and will never say a bad word against him... yet it still dosnt click to him.

But of cause as all things go, it all comes out. His infidelities become known and the consequinces follow on... when he is down at his smallest, weighed down by his actions, ask me who is by his side helping him put it all together again --- his wife.


Not that she wasn’t hurt by his actions. Not that she dosnt have a choice to walk away and let him be – she does. She just chooses to stick by him. WHY? He is her husband and if she doesn’t stick by him, who else will?

This is an instance of the thick coat of love... see, I don't believe that love simply just disappears. It dies yes but not so easily. I have this never ending respect for woman who have a love so deep for their partners that, when allowable and reasonable, will stick by him regardless of how he messes up.

I feel that our generation is riddled with people who easily give up esp. When it comes o their marriage commitments. What happened to forever and ever till death do us part. Nowadays, your imperfect partners makes a mistake and without even trying, its out the door for you, ready and willing to move on with somebody else. Am I the only one who is confused by such situations?

Please, don't get me wrong. I fully believe in walking away when its healthy for you – but not in giving up simply beacse the gong has gotten tough. No body said that this was going to be a walk in the park and if you believe so, then maybe you shouldn’t have gone into it to begin with...

Do you own a designer Thick Coat Of Love?

Look out for further posts on this topic.



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G-o-T