The ART of Fab!

Ask me and I shall tell you…




…Tell you of all the trials and let downs that I have had in a very (like microscopic) space of time. Ask me and I shall tell you how semi bitter I have become and how unfair this and that is…



But enough of that!

I have decided: today is a new day and I shall treat it as such. i have a couple of things that I need to set and keep in motion to ensure the successful transition from the glossy-eyed teenager to the young adult that I am that oozes fabulousness (wow that sounds weird).

So it begins:

• Daily mission to so rock the world everyday.

Think about it - we all go around following this and that. i think its time i did my thing and let everyone follow me for once... (makes perfect sense to me)

• Bigger commitment to laugh out loud.

Think about it - it seems that we spend far too much time frowning and complaining about things that we cannot change - enough i say (LOL)!!! no more. from here on I shall LOL instead of lol... (see the difference?) (wow - feel better already). Now say it with me: YES WE CAN (If it mattered, I would have made a damn good politician)

• Love a lot more harder

This applies to all the people around me. It goes from my family to friends, to all them haters and enviers. From the stranger to the undeserving and to the fellow soul sistas holding tight to this thing we shall dub life…See the thing about this love thing is that the more of it that you give the more you get in return (not necessarily from the person you gave to initially). My girls have been amazing and at times i don’t know how to thank them in a way that would make them realise how truly awesome they are. So, its more love their way and some to everyone else!!

For now, these are the objectives - one step at a time right. So there you have it.

I now move into what I call: THE ART OF FAB*

Go on, make your own list and share: what is you ART OF FAB FACTOR?

*Note: not everyone can pull this off, but it takes a certain kinda girl…

I don't GET it! Do you?

Ever had some things happen and you’re left wondering if you are the only one who dosnt get it as people carry on as if all is well? Well here is my list of some things I just don’t get:

1. (First only because it happened yesterday and this morning)

Why would you go through the trauma of waking up early and leaving the house during traffic rush hour only to drive at 5km/h on the road? Why the freaking hell do yu not eave a bit later and drive at 2km/h for all I care! Hell stop in the middle of the road f yu wish – just don’t do it during morning rush cause well some of us do have places we need to be and on time!

2. Am I the only who doesn’t get why stranger men have to hoot at you?

For whatever reason – there is no good enough reason to me besides life and death situations. But the people who hoot to greet you when they don’t know you – what out come are you hoping will be? That I will smile and wave back at you while I start picking our wedding theme colour and how many kids we will have! Fact is: if you can’t approach me and greet me properly – then please don’t hoot at me thinking it will have the same effect!

3. Why is it that people feel the right to enforce their point of view on you?

I get the human tendency to want to be seen as always right and ever so wise (happens to me too) but why the freaking hell would you think its ok to force people to see things in your opinion or else…? Were we not all made with functioning brains that are able to deduce and ponder and come to an out come that makes the best sense to ourselves (usually based on our unique experiences)? But no – you feel the need to be holier then thou and think it’s either your way or the wrong way. Did you ever think that maybe YOUR way is the WRONG way????

4. Why is it that some really pretty girls are the meanest?

Don’t you get it – the fact that you are pretty does not automatically make people wanna be around you all the time. Just like the rest of us, you still need to work at a likable personality and still have to get people to like you not just for the pretty (this is for those times when life throws a truck of cement on you and you actually survive) – pretty seekers may not necessarily stick around esp. if what’s left, is the cow in you !

5. (closely related to the last one) why is it that you get the shock of your life and see the injustice in people wanting you to perform what you get paid for?

Those who know what I do for a living will know what I mean. Ever noticed how humans sometimes do the most ridiculous of things – like wonder why they are being given a hard time for not doing their part! *sarcastic voice* ah could it be maybe because that’s why you are here to begin with – to do your job *wide eyes – blink-blink* would it not make better sense to stay at home if you don’t want to work? It would certainly be warmer there in winter!

6. (ok ok this one is very controversial) why is it that as woman we feel the need to compete with one another???

Really! Have you not seen it? You get those females that have made it a mission to look better, do better and to be at better… is it not exhausting? Always on the look out of someone who may out shine you? Honestly – does it matter that I got it on the street while you got it designer? Does it matter that you are louder and can dance better and you so have to show it to me and everyone there! See what usually happens is that you come out looking like desperate which ummm I don’t think was your point to begin with. Do you have to brake your back with them walk to try and stand out! *air head voice* OMG like try unique – it’s the new black! Lol (oh you know I be loving you all – warts, walks, nasty make up and all – you know who you are!) lol

7. (another controversial one) how and why does it seem to be you business that I have broken up with my boyfriend/ had a public fight with my husband/that it doesn’t bother me that I'm 32 and still single/am having lunch with Mr. Man/that I got the R600 handbag? How does that inturn become news you just have to tell someone about?

Close buddies will know what I mean. How does it become a matter of discussion and pleasure that my affairs are going sour esp. if your intention is not to help? I could never really full get this – the satisfaction that people get from this! Could it be that maybe cause your world is too dull and boring that you have to feed off my drama? That is not exactly something to be satisfied over *raised eyebrow* it should actually worry you enough to concentrate on your own thing! And what if I do splash out my cash? It aint yours – so why is it tickling your butt! So what that I have an expensive taste (this is for you girl – I ask this on behalf of you!)? if I maintain it my way why does it amaze you? Are there not enough things for you to be amazed at like why suicide bombers exist instead of the price of my shoes? Ahh com’on

8. (specking of that) what the hell is fascination with being a suicide bomber?

If you feel that you are too tiered of life and you wanna end it with a big bang – why would you wanna do it in crowded places? When you decided to commit suicide, it was a decision you made right – so why the heck would you wanna include people who haven’t made/will never make/are not insane enough to make that decision? If you wanna bomb yourself to pieces – do it on some mountain – away from people, grass, birds, other animals and trees. Well on the mountain, we know that rocks can handle it! Does that not make better sense? *looking around for an Amen!*

9. Why is it that the designer cloths are always the weirdest looking ones?

I kid you not. It would make the best sense that if I am going to over price a pair of jeans because of the INVISIBLE tag that they have, then I would make them look good. But because some of us (meaning all of you) are so much into public appearance, we settle to wearing nasty cloths and when some one questions our choice, our defence is: “well is [insert weird-well-known label name]” lol (weirdest thing!)

Before I too get blamed for not doing my job, I will stop here for now BUT mark my words, Part 2 of this post will come in future because there are more things I don’t get.

So what do you have on your list? Wanna share?

Big girl Panties...

You should know by now that I have this deep passion for well written writings (articles, proverbs, news etc…) and once in a while I stumble upon these and cant help but to share and discuss.

Cosmopolitan magazine has this daily 5 which they use to dish out some well meaning advise on EVERYTHING (one of the million reasons why I am addicted to the publication). This is one that they had a few days ago named “BIG GIRL PANTIES”

Read on and see what I mean: (and of cause I add my 2c worth)

1. Your body, your integrity, your independence – all these are yours and nobody else’s.

You have worked so hard to get to this place and yet you allow someone so easy to come take that all away all willy nilly… nope! Makes no sense to me. I am finally at a place where I am madly in love with this body (and with reason too cause tis is all I have and forever is too long to spend trying to look like someone else). I may be a little chubby and a little mis-proportioned but I fully realise that it is those exact things that make me… ME! I'm independent and I'm clever. I'm honest and worthy. I AM WOMEN

2. Think before you shout. Think before you send a vicious e-mail. Think before you hang up the phone or slam a door on someone. That split-second of consideration could spare you years of regret.

Not so easily done at times esp. for someone like me who is known for holding a hott head at the worst of times (fully attributed to my lack of patients and understanding for rubbish).

What do you say? Can you? Will you?

3. Ish happens. Deal with it smartly. Unburden (within reason) to friends, eat sensibly, exercise and sleep enough. If you still can’t cope, see a pro.
4. Nothing is meant to be. It just is. Sometimes you can influence the way things turn out and sometimes you can’t.
AMEN!

5. People don’t think about you as often as you think they do, so stop obsessing
(LOL love this one!)

Girl-On-Top has been found!

Was watching a show last night about a designer girl who’s week went from great to drab in a matter of days. Her FIRST collection was stolen in a huge mix-up with her best friend, the ex that DUMPED her like yesterdays rubbish and moved away popped back into the picture, she has a HUGE fall out with her new beau, her OTHER best friend finds out that she is the other woman in her new, exciting relationship and on TOP of all that – she still needs to design a new collection in 7 days since hers was stolen…
What got to me was the fact that amongst all that and through many tears-full nights, she pulls it off - manages to help her buddy fight her battles with the new romance, ditch the ex who took their past


- i am super woman -

(the white skin colour is part

         of the costume)

relationship as a little fling (while for her it was earth shattering) and still wowed the crowds with her newly made range… then on the night when all that seemed to be behind her and things started looking up – her boyfriend brakes up with her.

SCENE: she stands outside listening to this guy give her the good-bye speech, climbs ino a texi and leaves. With a feeling of knots in her tummy, she walks into a room full of people, puts a smile on her face and just for that moment holds it together for the sake of other people…

Would you be able to do that? Hold it together while your world seems to be crashing around you? I ask because in simply the first 6-months of a year that was said to be the greatest ever, I have had 75% of my deepest fears come true and yet here I still stand. Sure at times it feels like the world just wont stop caving, yet strangely enough, it never manages to fully swallow me – regardless of how close to the edge I am…

I am a 20 something year old black female with a drive to make it regardless of the hills and mountains I gotta trample and trip over to get there. I am loud and I love hard. I have passions that grow everyday and I have no patients for under achievers. I get that no one else can do it for me while I sit in a bunch somewhere hance my every-where-all-over routine. I cry and I shout, I sing and I dance…


There are factors out there who have made it a passion of theirs to bring me down and that’s ok – I suppose they too have the right to fulfil their dreams. Yet note that it being ok does not mean they will get their way. I am super woman and I can take on the odds – sometimes with the help of huge doses of chocolate cake and wine but bottom line… I will do it!

I AM GIRL-ON-TOP!